(Free Test) Do you have low or high self-esteem? | Be Pretty Confident Masterclass Video #1
Find out if you are a woman with low or high self-esteem. A self-esteem test is included too! This is Video #1 of my Be Pretty Confident Masterclass.
If you are attracted to this blog post, chances are, you may not have high self-esteem. Don’t be offended - this is nothing to be embarrassed about!
I’ve created the Be Pretty Confident Masterclass (free!) to help you boost your self-esteem and take the first step to achieving your goals.
In Video #1 below, I’ll help you identify if you are a woman with low or high self-esteem.
What you will learn from Video #1 of the Be Pretty Confident Masterclass:
Several characteristics of a woman with low self-esteem. Do you have them?
What are the real causes our low self-esteem?
Characteristics of a self-confident woman
A totally free + reliable test to find out your self-esteem level (download below)
Want a free and reliable test to check if you have low or high self-esteem? I’ll email it to you!
If you want to improve your self-esteem as soon as possible (and not have to hire a thousand-dollar coach for now), you can check out my powerful self-esteem binder.
All the best!
Shikah
14 Activities to Build Your Self-esteem and Self-worth
I’ll be sharing 14 activities which will raise your self-esteem and make you feel worthy. For your convenience, you can download and print the list of 14 self-esteem activities for your own use!
A list of 14 self-esteem activities to build your self-worth and feel comfortable in your own skin.
I wish there is a shortcut to building self-esteem and realising our self-worth.
That was why I created this printable,14 Days of Self-Esteem. It will help to create feelings of self-worth for you.
For your easy reference, you can download and print the list of 14 self-esteem activities below:
You can read my article on 7 secrets to build self-esteem if you want more advice on this topic.
You can commit to the 14 activities for 14 days in a row or stretch out the 14 activities for 1 whole month (if you want to take things slow!).
Read on if you want to learn what the 14 self-esteem activities are.
14 Self-Esteem Activities to boost self-worth
Day 1: Name 3 people whose lives are made easier because of your presence
Day 2: Write 3 achievements you are proud of
Day 3: Write 10 strengths and talents that you have
Day 4: Write 3 compliments which make you feel good
Day 5: Ask a friend or loved one to name 3 strengths that you have
Day 6: Compliment a stranger (a tough one!)
Day 7: Have lunch or tea alone at a nice cafe. Enjoy your own company.
Day 8: Script your ideal life. Choose one goal which you really want to achieve. Grab your journal and write today’s entry as though you have achieved that goal. Write your feelings when you achieved it, the ups and downs you had to go through to achieve the goal. (It’s a fun exercise, promise!)
Day 9: Write your answer to this question: “If I have 100% high self-esteem, what would I be doing today?”
Day 10: Groom yourself. Give yourself a manicure, a pedicure, body scrub in the shower, shave, body cream- the whole shebang. Wear nice, clean clothes and spritz your favourite perfume.
Day 11: Make no plans today and trust your intuition to guide you on what to do today. (do things and go to places on a whim if you feel like it)
Day 12: Visualise achieving one goal that you want. Close your eyes and visualise in great, realistic detail. Just do this for 5 minutes. (if you can, visualise for at least 5 minutes everyday)
Day 13: Write 5 small achievements you’ve had today in your journal
Day 14: Think of 1 future goal which you want to achieve very much. Write “I know I can achieve ___(insert goal)___ because…” in your journal
For your convenience, you can download and print a copy of these 14 self-esteem activities below:
If you want to double up your self esteem, you can look at my 21 journal prompts to build self-esteem instantly.
I hope the above 14 self-esteem activities will be helpful for you.
Meanwhile, have a good week!
Shikah
Related self-esteem blog articles
(Free Printable) Regain Career Confidence Now
Feel confident and worthy of yourself (regarding your career) with this motivational printable!
We’ve all been there - feeling not-so-worthy at work.
Especially when a manager criticises our work (constructive or not) or when we feel as though we have nothing much to offer when comparing ourselves with colleagues.
This mindset worksheet I created will boost your confidence and self-worth with regards to work.
You will realise that you have many talents and skills which you can monetize.
You have to dig deep within yourself, observe your work habits & patterns or even ask trusted friends for valuable input!
You may download the worksheet below. If it helps you, pin it to your Pinterest board or email it to your loved ones to help them too!
Have a good week :)
(Free Printable) Raise Your Self-Esteem Now
I created this Raise Self-Esteem Now printable to help you feel better about yourself during stressful times.
This printable will help restore your self-worth when your confidence takes a hit!
I was inspired to create this Raise Your Self-Esteem printable when I felt angry recently.
Someone overstepped my boundaries and I did not retaliate. I felt hurt, and it hurt my sense of self-worth a little.
Hence, I sketched out this printable to make me feel better. And bring up my self-esteem again.
I hope it helps you in times of distress as well. I will send it to your inbox:
I will create a more in-depth version of this printable soon so all of us can keep a healthy self-esteem when we feel wronged, hurt, angry, pissed-off, belittled…you name it. :D
See you around!
(Free Workbook) 7 Secrets to Build High Self-Esteem and Feel Empowered
Let’s build high self-esteem and enjoy life to the fullest! It does not matter if we’ve been suffering with low self-esteem for years. I have 7 strategies to help you feel more confident and feel more empowered. If you want a shortcut, you can download the Self-Esteem Workbook in this post!
7 powerful ways to build high self-esteem and feel confident and empowered.
Low self-esteem is not a problem only faced by teenagers and youngsters.
There are many adults today - even in their golden years - who don't have high self-esteem.
This is sad because low self-esteem can make our relationships suffer, we are constantly envying other people and make us feel lousy about ourselves.
It's time to change that!
If you need a shortcut, you can download my Self-Esteem Workbook below.
Good self-esteem will make us feel great about ourselves
I'm sure you know a person or 2 who are comfortable in their own skin.
They don't crumble when people criticise them unjustly. They are comfortable saying 'I'm sorry' when they are wrong. And they are confident of their own talents. They can laugh at themselves.
The wonderful thing about high self-esteem is that it gives us
more success at work
we seem more attractive to our partners
we don't need others' approval
life seems more bright and joyful and less gloomy
we feel great about ourselves
Where did our low self-esteem come from?
If you are curious to know how low or high your self-esteem is, you can try this self-esteem test.
Honestly, I don't think it's our fault entirely if we have low self-esteem.
That's because the way our parents brought us up, had a HUGE impact on our self-esteem.
Were you expected to be 'perfect' when you were young?
Were you harshly criticised if you had a big dream or wanted something badly?
Were you constantly compared to other kids?
Have you 'failed' at achieving something (eg: losing a game, scoring a D in an exam) and made to feel as though you were a complete failure as a person?
The above are some examples of how our parents might have unknowingly stumped our self-esteem.
If you want a quick boost of self-esteem, my Raise Self-Esteem Now worksheet can help!
7 Strategies to Build Our Self-Esteem
Strategy #1: Accomplish more
I'm not referring to accomplishing something as big as winning an award or getting a medal at some sports event.
We can set small goals, pursue the small goals and achieve them. Once we've achieved our goals - be it small or big goals - we will have esteem-like feelings.
Make sure that the goals you set bring satisfaction to yourself. Don't set goals to please another person or to get praise!
Do you know what's interesting?
Bragging a little bit of our accomplishments on Facebook or Instagram can also boost our self-esteem.
Just don't overdo it ;)
Strategy #2: Be Aware of Your Talents
This might seem obvious to some of us.
But low self-esteem people are not aware or choose to ignore their strengths.
If you put pen to paper and list your strengths and talents, you will be surprised that your list is longer than you thought.
Or, you can get a trusted person to list your strengths.
You will get insight into your talents you were not aware of!
Strategy #3: Treat yourself like a worthy person
This is where self-care comes in.
Pamper yourself with a massage. A warm bath. Diffuse some essential oils (geranium essential oil brings out feelings of self-love if you are into the metaphysical). Play with a pet or child. Journal. Exercise. Dine at your favourite place.
Basically do activities which make you feel awesome.
These feel-good activities will send signals to your mind that you are a valuable person worthy of nice things in life.
Strategy #4: Fake it till you make it
Is there a celebrity whom you admire because she is so confident of herself during interviews?
Or someone you know personally?
We can model their body language.
Confident people tend to shake hands firmly, make eye contact, speak clearly and stand tall.
When we adopt their body language, people will treat us with respect which in turn, makes us feel confident.
I admire Queen Rania of Jordan. She gently draws boundaries when meeting people in public places, whilst maintaining a smile on her face and very polite body language. Even when unknown women rush to hug her at events.
Jennifer Lopez is another celebrity who is a master in people skills.
She can answer awkward interview questions with jokes, she laughs at herself and effortlessly makes herself seem humble.
Whether she is truly like that in real life or not, we are not sure. But it's a well-honed skill.
If you want a shortcut to building your self-esteem, you can always download my Self Esteem Workbook below.
Strategy #5: Talk & spend time with high self-esteem people
I can’t stress this enough. Hanging out with positive people makes us feel good.
They help us to re-frame any problem we have as something that will pass.
High self-esteem people will make us feel energised and recharged after hanging out with them.
They are open to admit any mistakes or 'failures' they've had.
And they will still be supportive of us when we make mistakes ourselves.
In short, they accept us for who we are, flaws and all.
Hold on to these people tightly.
Strategy #6: Be Kind to Yourself
I like a quote I came across recently: "You can't get life wrong because there's no such thing as getting life right."
Everybody makes mistakes. Successful people make even more mistakes than the average person.
When we 'fail' at something, focus on tweaking our strategies.
'Failures' are feedback that our strategies need tweaking.
'Failures' have nothing to do with us as a person. So don't beat ourselves up when we “fall”.
STRATEGY #7: Tame the inner critic
All of us have inner critics.
These pesky little things will negate our talents.
Inner critic example: "My superior praised my work today. I think he was just being polite. Or maybe he is in a good mood. I'm sure my work wasn't that fantastic."
We can reframe it with: "I feel good that my superior praised my work today. It may not be perfect, but I did the best I could. I feel proud for pushing myself."
I know of a successful businessman who has an unorthodox approach to this.
He visualises his inner critic as an iguana (of all things!). He said that all of us have these 'iguanas' living in our minds.
When negative self-talk starts in his mind, he will shrug it off as the 'iguana' blabbering (yet again).
This is one creative way we can separate our negative self-talk from ourselves.
Please remember that changes in habit or mindset takes time. :)
My last thoughts on building high self-esteem:
We will not be a confident superstar immediately after applying all the 7 strategies above.
If we've been having low self-esteem for years, we can't just switch to being a confident person in 1 day.
Be kind to yourself and give yourself time to change.
You can learn more strategies to build high self-esteem from my blog posts such as:
And if you want a step-by-step guide to help you be that confident woman at work, download the Self-Esteem Workbook below:
Have a good week!
Shikah
